A FarmVille Addiction Confession & an Apology
Dr. Phil says that people don’t break habits; they replace an unwanted behavior with a new behavior. “Close your accounts. Get out of FarmVille,” he instructs Teresa. “Reintroduce yourself to your family. Cook a meal. Go on a date. Go to a movie. Go jog. Go sit out in the backyard and watch the grass grow. Do something…. Actually, start a garden for real.”….Today on Dr. Phil.
—My controversial facebook status post on 01/20/2010.
AN APOLOGY TO FELLOW FARMVILLERS: I did not mean to imply with some of my posts on facebook that everyone who plays FarmVille is an addicted loser who is wasting their life.
I know some people use games like FarmVille as a productive stress-reducer; a nice sort of controllable simulation in this crazy chaotic world. Some people have crossword puzzles, some people knit, some people watch TV, some people clean their grout daily with a toothbrush and don’t step on cracks in the sidewalk. Whatever makes them feel like they’ve got a little control and makes them happy, fine. As long as your family, your job and your health aren’t suffering from inattention, games are generally harmless and fun.
But MY family and MY journey was being affected adversely by the time I spent in FarmVille.
Maybe people thought I was judging them. Even if I WAS judging them, it’s never nice to do it publicly. I did not mean to come off as a one-woman FarmVille intervention team — but then I know who I am, why I play the things I play, and why I have guilt about it. If FarmVille or facebook or any other computer game or activity interferes with happiness, healthiness, relationships or responsibilities then there is a problem. But you have to discover the problem for yourself, it’s not MY call to make.
There is a HUGE difference between preaching about the evils of cupcakes when you are a fat person with health issues and preaching about the evils of cupcakes at a children’s birthday party.
I am the fat person with the health issues. Let the kids play and have fun, I say, but for us fat people, perhaps it’s better that we just send a card with a little money tucked inside and stay away from the party altogether.